I have been struggling all my life with having a narcissist mother. I am 65.
I had a particularly wounding time from her after my father died recently; it was the worst ever and I needed help.
I had therapy years ago and although it helped it didn’t really address the problem of my mother, I think they knew little about narcissism then.
By some miracle I found Lorna on the internet.
The fact that she specialised in narcissistic abuse was unusual and hopeful.
Although I had read a lot, she gave me so much current information plus books and also articles she had written.
She taught me various different techniques to help me and we did EMDR which is a very powerful and amazing therapeutic tool.
The fact that Lorna herself has suffered from narcissistic abuse has given her a deep empathy and understanding.
She understood the struggle and how hard it is to navigate life with these people, something that people who have not experienced or observed this at close hand can’t really understand.
She gave me the tools and insight on how to cope, how to observe and detach.
Lorna quite simply set me free!
She gave me back my life for which I will always be grateful.
I feel more confident and positive and have more of a sense of self and this has even fed into my work – I am an artist.
I feel so lucky to have found her at a time when I was at such a low ebb.
On top of all this she is really professional but also a lovely person.
I can’t recommend her enough.
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I have been working with Lorna for the past year and am so grateful that I had the opportunity to meet with her. When we first spoke I was struggling to manage my emotions after a narcissistic relationship and found everyday tasks very difficult to navigate. I had tried dealing with the issues on my own but was not doing well and my emotions were dysregulated and I was stuck in an endless cycle of rumination and self-doubt. Lorna was very kind and compassionate and gently and carefully worked with me to bring about a sense of balance and calm. By setting achievable goals and providing me with guidance and information I was able to increase my sleep, concentration and wellbeing which in turn allowed me the space to be calm and validate my own emotional needs. We were able to delve deeply into my childhood and the limiting self-beliefs that were influencing every area of my life and I was able to understand why I tolerated narcissistic relationships as an adult. By unpacking my family dynamics I was able to move forward and for the first time understand and develop self-knowledge. Lorna was later able to offer me EMDR sessions that helped me explore traumatic memories and process them in safe environment. Throughout all this Lorna was warm, kind and encouraging and I will always be thankful for her support.
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Before working with Lorna, I was really struggling with my mental health.
I wasn’t happy, I was confused, I was extremely anxious, I was ruminating a lot, I was struggling with some OCD tendencies, I had a lot of regrets, I was low on confidence and completely overwhelmed. This was severely affecting me both personally and professionally.
The catalyst for this was some substantial changes in my personal life that revolved around my relationship with my mother.
I got to the point where I’d run out of ideas and needed the help of a therapist. I specifically wanted to work with a specialist in narcissistic parenting and that is how I found Lorna.
When I first read Lorna’s website, I was in disbelief at how closely the articles related to my own experience, relationship and symptoms.
After 11 sessions and 5 months of work, I am very pleased to report that I am in a completely different place mentally from where I started. I can’t quite believe the transformation!
From the off, Lorna reiterated this process takes a lot of work and that it was my work to do. It was really quite tough at times but either through the sessions with Lorna or through the incredible resources provided, there is plenty of help at hand.
I am so grateful for finding Lorna and persisting through my troubles. I know there is still a long journey ahead but I’m in a much better place and feel equipped with the tools and mindset I need to live more happily and healthily.
I’d highly recommend reaching out to Lorna if you would like to efficiently and effectively work through any issues you are experiencing, particularly related to narcissistic relationships.
Thank you Lorna, I am eternally grateful!
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The work I have done with Lorna has been transformative. Her support and ability to put you at ease create a safe space for vulnerability and growth. She encourages self-driven learning and has empowered me to take an active role in my own growth.Thanks to Lorna, I now feel equipped with many tools to help me navigate complex family dynamics and emotions in a healthy and empowered way. I wholeheartedly recommend her to anyone seeking transformative therapy.
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I have been struggling with a difficult mother for over half a century, only recently realising she displays toxic, narcissistic behaviour when it all became too much. I found Lorna online and she was like a lighthouse in the distance, in the midst of the darkness and storm in my head. At first I was afraid to open Pandora’s box and start the process of counselling, which I expected to be very hard to deal with on top of the way I was already feeling. However Lorna really listened, and gently but firmly guided me at my own pace, keeping me on track with my healing. She gave me tools and techniques to identify and regulate my emotions, accept and release stress and grief, find and set firm boundaries, protect myself from my mother’s narcissistic rage and manipulations, and discover what my needs are and how to make these a priority to fit into my life, work and relationships.
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Lorna has been a blessing for me in this world that struggles to understand the effects of narcissistic abuse from parents. She is kind, honest and extremely knowledgeable. When I came to Lorna, I was stuck in a state of anxiety and shame. She was incredibly patient with me and became a safe place for me to work through my trauma. She taught me so much about fight, flight and freeze responses and that really helped me understand what was happening with me.
Over the one-year course of my therapy with Lorna, she has helped me unravel decades of abuse and has guided me in healing. The Inner Child work and EMDR therapy we did together was incredibly powerful and has profoundly changed my life. Lorna also provided me with tools to work through my anxiety, shame and emotional flashbacks and has been instrumental in my journey back to my authentic self.
I wish I had found Lorna sooner and I am so grateful for all the support she provided in my darkest times.
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Thank you so much for the work you have done with me, these last few months have been transformational. Although the therapy has been challenging and emotionally difficult at times, it’s exactly what I needed.
I always felt “seen” and validated in our sessions and you always made me feel that what I had experienced was real. You completely understood what I was trying to explain, and you gave me a language for the dark parts of narcissism that I knew existed but was too scared to bring into the light. The fact that you have personal experience of narcissism is so valuable because you understand the trauma in ways that other people can’t.
The tools and techniques you have given me are ones that I hope to use for the rest of my life. Working on boundaries; inner child work and installing a nurturer have been particularly helpful. Learning that I don’t have to be a people pleaser to feel worthwhile has been life changing.
Although I’m sad that our sessions have come to an end, I feel stronger and more in control of my emotions. I feel more conscious of what my mind is doing and I’m able to catch myself before I spiral. I like myself so much more now and it’s been life affirming to know that I am worthy of self-care and love. Now I know that I don’t exist only to meet the emotional needs of others. I don’t have to walk on eggshells anymore. I can be assertive but still be kind and giving to others. I know that I don’t have to sacrifice my own peace of mind for other people.
You have been the right type of therapist for me - kind, supportive, compassionate, reflective, validating, present and curious.
The therapy you offer is completely different to what I have experienced in the past. You are extremely skilled in so many areas and you seemed to know instinctively what I needed in each session. It always felt like a partnership, that we were working things out together. You have been a comfort to me and I’m so pleased that you were the therapist to help me. I hope you write a book one day!
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I started working with Lorna in April 2022, I had sought Lorna out specifically because she specialises in the area I needed help with. I was recovering from a narcissistic marriage and found there were long-term effects on my mental health. I was suffering with anxiety, depression, insecurities, blocks in my communication and self-expression and a whole host of other personal demons.
Through our work together Lorna helped me explore my needs and armed me with tools to cope with my psychological state. We delved into identifying emotions and peeling off the layers to uncover the basic raw emotions behind my anxiety and other issues. Lorna equipped me with a whole host of tools and methods for identifying emotions, calming my responses and learning self-love. Through my work with Lorna, I realised there were some basic emotional skills and foundations which children learn in a healthy relationship with their parents or caregivers, I had not been fortunate enough to have these skills nurtured in my childhood so with some time, a lot of patience and care from Lorna and some courage from me, Lorna helped me through learning these skills as an adult.
I am finding now that I can take a step back and identify my emotions, be more present in a lot of situations and catch the crazy thought process that leads to anxiety attacks and depression, before it goes that far. Lorna always had the calmness, patience and love to nurture both the child in me and the adult during the sessions. I am very grateful to her for everything she has done for me.
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My father was diagnosed with NPD. That diagnosis changed my world. I was 54 at the time. I went on a steep learning curve, as you do, to understand what was wrong in my life. I managed to raise myself up, but there were behaviours that I couldn’t shake off, like that detestable burning rage, for a start, when I was triggered. Cue Lorna. She helped me finish the job of recovering from that hell and finally knowing and trusting myself. The hard part, in other words. And she gave me the map to keep going forwards. Thank you, Lorna.
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I could write twenty pages on what you have done for me Lorna, a woman in her mid-fifties, with a seemingly successful life and also, actually a reasonable knowledge about narcissism. But to keep it short, since knowing you I have found that there can be healing from having had a narcissist as a mother. I never thought that possible - I knew there was something very wrong but I wasn’t really all that aware of the very deep damage she caused.
I have been fighting this all my life. At the age of 20, I had some understanding of the “adaptive child” and more recently, a sort of understanding about many of the issues but I’ve still lived unknowingly with anxiety; my body has been regularly exhausted and hospital not an uncommon place. Despite that, I was actually hardly even aware of the chronic stress I lived with because it was my “normal”; I put it down to my job mostly.
What you have done is gently and supportively (sometimes firmly but only when I needed it 😊) teased out core beliefs, my internal truth and enabled great healing and internal security (for me and my inner child). I have never had that before, at any point, in all of my life! I have never felt at peace before these last few weeks. I finally know my true self and am released from stress and anxiety. It is unbelievable! I know that I could not have done it without your great skill and knowledge as a counsellor. It is the greatest gift and I can’t thank you enough! Let it be known that you are brilliant.
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Working with Lorna over the past few months has changed not just my ability to manage my relationship with my narcissistic mother, but has changed the way I see myself and how I am in the world with my friends, work colleagues and most importantly myself. I have come to a place of real acceptance of my parents and my past, and although I am still a work in progress, I have found peace and deep joy for myself, my life now, and my future. I could never have imagined this and could not have done it without Lorna, who I thank and recommend from the bottom of my heart.
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Having literally suffered a lifetime of emotional pain, at being brought up by narcissists, Lorna came into my life and changed my way of thinking.
She has been the single, only person to instantly ‘get me’, help me and heal me. I don’t really know how she did it - but it felt like nothing short of a miracle.
I was at the point of giving up on the notion of independence, but Lorna, cut through all the confusion, misdirection, manipulation, and fear and led me to a place of acceptance. This for me, became the game changer. The shifts in my thinking came quickly and powerfully. Each session brought a greater degree of clarity.
I worked with Lorna for 5 short months, but the impact will last the rest of my life. I am eternally grateful to Lorna for saving me.
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After years of therapy addressing what I labelled as basically arbitrary, albeit very cruel, behaviour by family members, I discovered a YouTube video discussing narcissistic abuse and gaslighting. I quickly realised that what I had been describing at length to my therapist was basically a portrait of extreme narcissism and the abuse that follows on from it. This opened up many doors - a door to understanding what lay behind the behaviour and most importantly to seeing that it wasn’t me who was crazy or at fault. It also opened the door to getting support and help from Lorna, as a specialist in dealing with the effects of this kind of abuse. I discovered that narcissistic abuse, which I had suffered from for much of my life and led to chronic low self-esteem that seemed so at odds with my good intentions and all I had achieved in life, was responsible for the state of confusion and self-doubt that makes recovery almost as hard as the experiences of being a victim. I discovered that people like that don’t change - laying to rest my endless quest to “turn them around” and getting them to accept me, which was never going to happen – and that my decision to cut off relations was not only right but life-saving. And thanks to Lorna, her advice and the resources she recommended, I continued my healing journey and developing the essential life skills that had been kept away from me as part of the concerted attempt to keep me subordinate at the hands of people who, far from showing remorse, were showing every indication of taking pleasure in the suffering they had caused me. It’s a long road but you can’t fix a problem you don’t understand and Lorna will help you understand it and rebuild your life if it’s a journey you want to take.
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Therapy with Lorna was a superb investment of both my time and money.
I started it during a very low period, feeling desperate and unable to sleep.
Therapy was hard work but has been well worth the effort.
I finally now feel a sense of calm and peace. Priceless.
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Contacting Lorna was definitely one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
I was completely new to any kind of therapy and did not initially realise what a giant positive step I was taking. I was astounded how familiar many of the scenarios described on the website and lived in the testimonials were. In fact, it was almost a relief to see that I was not alone in dealing with the ongoing and baffling situations I had found myself in for much of my life. Both my mother and sibling are covert narcissists and I cannot fully explain what a profoundly negative impact this has had on me and also on wider family relationships, including many, many, unbelievably hurtful situations where I was always the scapegoat. Much of the behaviour I was tolerating was so ingrained as to be thought of by me as ‘normal’ and consequently therefore also had an effect on other life choices I made.
Lorna’s extensive study of NPD coupled with her instinctive understanding of the disorder and its lasting effects were, for me, such a relief! Her gentle guidance through the work needed and her ability to empathise with the situations I described, many from childhood, gave me the confidence in myself to be able to handle situations I will face in the future.
Lorna was always professional and insightful and I really looked forward to her Skype sessions. It was empowering to be able to talk freely with an understanding of the difficulties I faced. I really just wish I’d found Lorna years ago!
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I had always known that my relationship with my mother was poor, but it was not until her death (in my late fifties), that I started to understand why. My mother was a covert narcissist. Such was her skill in hiding the emotional neglect and abuse she had inflicted on me all my life, I was believed by no-one. Whenever I raised the subject, I was simply dismissed. What I was saying was too unbelievable be true. To not be believed by those you are closest to is so emotionally devastating that it is hard to put into words.
I tried to ‘self heal’ by learning as much as I could by trawling through innumerable articles and videos on the internet, but I simply couldn’t get there. I could not understand what had happened to me nor why it had happened, and even after my mother’s death, the hurt and anger would still not go away.
I found Lorna’s website. Everything on there seemed so relevant to me. I contacted Lorna and we arranged a Skype call. Lorna immediately identified with what I was saying and just ‘got it’. It was such a relief to finally be believed and to be understood by someone. Over the following weeks Lorna supplied me with information that was so totally relevant to me. I was also given techniques to help me cope with my negative feelings. Some seemed too simple to be of any use, but they REALLY worked. They are things that I will use long into the future.
I cannot thank Lorna enough. If anyone out there has suffered narcissistic abuse then I would implore you to speak to Lorna. It will change your life.
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I would highly recommend therapy with Lorna to anyone dealing with the remnants of narcissistic abuse. I initially sought therapy to stop repeating narcissistic relationship patterns and to process the death of my mother. Over a few months, Lorna helped me come to terms with what I had experienced in my childhood. As well as uncovering other narcissistic family dynamics I wasn't aware existed.
After a lifetime of feeling I was inherently born wrong, with her help, I am now able to see my self-worth. Lorna made it very comfortable to share the parts of my life I thought people wouldn't understand. Her in-depth knowledge of narcissism helped me understand my past and to realise I didn't imagine it.
I was able to heal some really deep wounds, like not wanting children, which has made me more optimistic about my future. I have new levels of confidence, I'm able to set clear boundaries, and I've learnt radical self-acceptance. For me, this was life-changing work, and I would highly recommend it to anyone struggling with dysfunctional relationships
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I was in crisis when I first contacted Lorna, depressed and convinced I was losing my mind. I had suspicions that my dysfunctional relationship with my mother – who I now know to be a narcissist and who continued to control my life well into adulthood – was the cause of it. But who would help me, believe me, understand? Well, Lorna could and did.
With personal and professional insight, warmth and care, she offered me a lifeline; reassurance, understanding and hope when all I could do was cry. I thought I was too broken to get better. Too confused and lost to make sense of my experience. But Lorna gave me the therapeutic tools and the safe space I needed to process the trauma. I finally had an explanation for my mother's toxic behaviour, my crippling lack of self-belief, emotional detachment and identity crisis. After a few months, I stopped feeling crazy and started to heal.
With Lorna's support, I found the strength to reduce contact with my mother and create healthy boundaries. The relief is immense and I feel free to be 'me' at last; to trust my gut, embrace my emotions and effect positive change in my life. My relationship with my own young daughter has also improved and I am very glad I found Lorna when I did - history will not repeat itself. I have made my peace and can at last move forward. Thank you so much Lorna.
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Before booking my first session with Lorna, I was sceptical about approaching therapy with a focus on narcissism. Now, I am so glad I took that step. After years of on-and-off therapy with multiple professionals, Lorna was the first therapist to walk me through some of the core dynamics that were impacting my life (and my young children) with a clear and relatable framework. Understanding the patterns recurring in my beliefs and relationships, and understanding they were linked to particular disorders or toxic dynamics that have labels, helped me to see the reality I was unable (or unwilling) to see before. Her kindness and understanding during inner child work, encouragement through inner critic work, along with the incredibly useful links, books, and courses she recommended was hands-down the best approach I’ve encountered in therapy. In the short space of five months, I finally feel that my feet are solidly anchored to the path of healing and I’ve developed daily habits of healing that have had an immeasurable impact already. I’m now able to put boundaries with my narcissistic ex-husband and hold them without falling into anxiety or fear. I’m now able to recognise other unhealthy dynamics within several relationships in my life and maintain boundaries. I’m now aware of my inner self-talk and able to re-parent myself with care and compassion. I’m able to review my parenting methods and how they impact my children without shaming myself for mistakes.
This is life-long work but I already feel truly transformed. All the resources Lorna provided and her wise questions have shown me that I do have the ability and confidence to do this and I can rely on myself. I am more confident, self-assured, and at peace.
A huge thank you, Lorna, from the bottom of my heart - you haven’t been yet another crutch but a truly wise teacher who has given me the tools and insight to keep moving forward on my own.
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I can’t thank Lorna enough for the life changing therapy that she has given me.
I came to Lorna for help after being in a marriage with a Narcissistic husband for over 30 years. Lorna immediately made me feel comfortable, and her sessions provided me a safe place of trust to open up about the trauma that I had experienced. She was very intuitive, empathetic, understanding, supportive and kind.
She also helped me to understand and recognise additional wounds that I had suffered, leading back to childhood trauma, through her wealth of knowledge and experience. We worked on deep self-exploration, which allowed me to unlock many feelings and experiences that I had been suppressing.
Lorna has taught me about so many valuable tools and techniques that I can use, in addition to providing and recommending several helpful resources to read, which will continue to be a positive source of reference.
Gaining the right help from Lorna has had such a huge, positive impact on how I have been able to heal, recover and move forward. It has been invaluable and I feel hugely grateful to her. I now feel much stronger, more confident, calmer and freer and I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend her to others.
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I came to Lorna when it dawned on me at the age of 56, that I was the scapegoat in a narcissistic family structure, and had been trauma bonding my whole life. It was both revelatory and devastating. The information that I was gleaning at the time really encouraged me to find a therapist that could understand what I was going through, and more importantly guide me towards recovery. It all seemed insurmountable at the time. But in finding Lorna and having regular Skype sessions with her, it became clear that I did have a future, that I wasn’t the completely broken and unlovable person that I had always thought I was. Lorna guided me and helped me to see what had happened to me. She taught me techniques to interrupt my negative thinking patterns and to develop a healthy self-regard. I cannot thank her enough. I now feel capable of taking back my life and using my energy for myself. It is a massive relief. I highly recommend Lorna as a sensitive, intuitive and kind therapist who has the knowledge and experience to help those of us who need to engage in therapy to heal from narcissistic abuse.
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Lorna really is an outstanding therapist. I have attempted various forms of therapy over the years with limited success. After a traumatising end to a lengthy abusive relationship I was desperately seeking a more effective way of processing and recovering from my PTSD and co-dependency. Lorna’s approach is different to most standard talking therapies, she drills down to the root causes and provides effective strategies and tools to facilitate healing. I always felt Lorna was truly invested in my sessions and wanted the best outcome for me. Lorna always provided extra resources after our sessions that were appropriate to what we had discussed and which I found very helpful. I highly recommend Lorna, she is thorough and extremely knowledgeable and I couldn’t have wished for a better experience or outcome.
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Taking the first step to begin therapy at 40 with Lorna is by far one of the best decisions I have made in my life. My sessions with Lorna have helped me to recognise my experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on my life. Through this process, I have finally been able to admit the truth of how I have been emotionally abused throughout my childhood and into my adult life. The work I undertook over several months was to armour myself with self-protection tools and coping strategies to use going forward. Completing therapy, having Lorna by my side on this journey of self-exploration, growth, healing and recovery I have now come out of the darkness and can finally see the light. Lorna is warm, compassionate, empathic, honest, sincere and open and had her own personal experience of narcissistic abuse, which I found massively helped me to relate to her and the type of therapy she could offer to me. In the future if I ever feel I need to have therapy again or I am having a day where I am struggling, I know she is only an email/Skype call away and I wouldn't hesitate to get in touch if I needed too.
But for now, I am finally free and about to embark on a new chapter in my story of my life.
Highly recommended, you won't be disappointed.
Lorna, keep shining your bright light in a dark world.
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If I hadn't had therapy with Lorna, I would be in the same turbulent place I was two years ago. I came to her having suffered panic attacks and anxiety that had stopped me from being able to function. I couldn't go to work or make any social plans for roughly two years. It was completely debilitating. I thought there was something innately wrong with me. Through therapy I discovered that I was suffering the effects of narcissistic abuse and thanks to Lorna, was able to find the strength to honour my boundaries with my narcissistic father. In the last year and a half, I have only had two panic attacks. I now work five days a week and have a good social life. I had dreadful social anxiety and through sessions with Lorna, she helped me understand where that stemmed from. Lorna showed me how to stop abandoning myself and helped me rework my mental and behavioural patterns so that I was more empowered. If I ever have a blip, I go back to the folder we created with all Lorna's guidance, information sheets and my notes from the books she told me to read (which were invaluable) - and I can realign. I will never forget how incredibly professional, kind and patient Lorna was. I still can't quite believe how much we covered in such a short amount of time and how deeply changing the sessions with Lorna were.
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I was completely new to therapy when I began working with Lorna, and I’m so glad I did. Nearly a year post-breakup, I had plateaued in my recovery from a poignant narcissist relationship and felt stuck, unable to see a future for myself.
Lorna walked me through the journey of inner healing, helping me to unlock each of the many doors leading to the rediscovery of myself. Eight months on and I can finally begin to look forward; feeling free, no longer governed by past trauma, and knowing myself better than ever.
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For me, Lorna was a guardian angel, a saviour when I felt like I was spiralling down into a deep dark black hole – deflating over and over again with every breath I took. I approached her out of desperation to ‘fix’ my marriage and deal with the toxic influence of my narcissist mother-in-law. She helped me break out of the cycles of emotional and psychological abuse and shone a light on how I was being gaslighted to the point where I felt like I couldn’t recognise myself. She showed me ways of asserting healthy boundaries to protect myself and eventually helped me arrive at a decision on my marriage.
Lorna really helped me. She heard me when I felt like no one was listening to me or even understood what I was saying. At the time, it felt like I was talking a different language, everyone I spoke to about the abuse behaved like I was overreacting or reading too much into things (including a CBT therapist). Sadly, that is how insidious narcissistic abuse can be. And in my case, coming from a narcissistic culture/society and family, a lot of the behaviour (firstly, ingrained) is also considered normal.
I thankfully found Lorna who understood exactly what I was talking about, how I felt and what I was going through. She truly understands the subtle nuances of it all and has a very in-depth understanding of the personality disorder and culture.
Lorna empowered me, helping me shrink my inner critic and shame, showed me ways to access and reach deeper into my childhood to uncover the core wounds and embedded traumas. She gave me lots of tools, materials and readings to gain awareness around the subject and equipped me with a bountiful toolbox. She showed me ways of nurturing and growing myself, cultivating self-care and self-compassion to heal, grow and live. And most importantly, she very patiently held space for me as I traversed through this painfully dark (very necessary and in its own way beautiful) journey.
Today, as I walk tall towards this mesmerising flood of light engulfing me stronger and brighter with each day, I would not have been able to do it without her!
She truly understands and cares, and that made all the difference!
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Highly recommended. Lorna was excellent for me. Warm yet challenging and extremely informative providing plenty of material to access outside of sessions i.e worksheets, books and online videos. I progressed quickly and was able to end therapy earlier than anticipated. Lorna's ability and knowledge regarding narcissistic mothering together with the inner child work we did has equipped me to become stronger and more self-reliant. The process has been invaluable to me.
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Lorna encouraged me to be proactive and try out various different things to see what worked rather than sticking to one rigid way of doing things, and she instantly always knew how to keep the sessions on track and keep me focused. It felt great to have someone to both understand and have valuable, powerful guidance to offer. I’ve been let down before in therapy and was reluctant to try again, but I’m glad that I did. Thank you Lorna, you’ve helped me to make a difference in my life.
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I always knew that my relationship with my mother was not healthy, but it was not until receiving counselling from Lorna that I realised why: my mother is a covert narcissist. No-one else had believed that my mother was capable of emotional abuse, or that I had suffered it. Lorna helped me to see the truth of my childhood, and why I continued to feel like a bad person. She diagnosed me with OCD, a result of childhood trauma, which has enabled me to finally find a way out of my crippling negative thoughts. Thank you, Lorna. Thank you for believing me and giving me my life back.
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“When I first contacted Lorna seeking her help I wasn't sure I actually needed the help of a therapist, but I had tried so many other things and nothing else had really helped me to figure out the answers to the questions I had and re-occurring issues I felt I needed to tackle in my life.
She was easy to talk to over Skype and by the end of the first appointment I felt for the first time someone had listened to me, heard what I was saying and actually understood what I was talking about.
Over the following weeks she helped me to open up and talk about current issues I was going through as well as deeper issues I'd buried a long time ago, which lay unresolved and festering inside me. She used an array of different techniques and therapies to help me work through them gradually. She also taught me a range of techniques and therapies so I could help myself day-to-day as I continued through the healing process.
I went from feeling like I was confused and alone in a deep dark hole I couldn't climb out of, to standing at the top of the hole having filled it in, patted the soil firm on top and now building on the solid ground onwards and upward. Lorna threw me the rope ladder to get out of the hole and guided me up each rung, she gave me the spade to fill the hole in, and now she's got me back with my feet on the ground she's working with me to set me on the right track to build the life I've longed for for so long.
Lorna's help and support has led to me coming to terms with and starting to heal from years of narcissistic abuse and I'm now working towards a brighter future of my choosing, feeling in control of my life and free to finally be me. She has explained it's a lifelong healing process and she's equipping me with the skills I need to continue on this path myself.
I have already recommended her to one of my closest friends as I'm so pleased with how she has helped me.”
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Working with Lorna was the absolute best decision I have ever made. Her professionalism from the very beginning put me at ease. After my initial consultation it was obvious that Lorna had a complete and total understanding of my issues and gave me hope that she could help me move forward. I was stunned at the speed at which my progress happened and how amazing I felt after working with Lorna. It definitely feels like a “before” and “after” that I wasn’t expecting. In all honesty, I had faith that Lorna could help me, but I didn’t think that I would feel this amazing after working with her. My life, my mood and my overall wellbeing have improved significantly. The moving forward and not needing to see Lorna any more is bitter sweet. It’s amazing to know that I have the skills that I need to keep myself progressing, but I’ll miss having someone who understands what I’ve been through and can empathise and has so much compassion. But, I feel completely empowered and confident moving forward on my own, knowing that if I need her support again, it’s available to me.
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At 62, after emotional abuse since my early teens, I knew I needed help to deal with my 86 year-old narcissistic mother . I searched my local list of therapists, desperately looking for someone who specialised in Narcissistic Personality Disorder. There was no-one with the right knowledge locally, but I found Lorna who offered therapy via Skype. I only needed a few sessions but the results have been astounding. To have someone who really does understand the disorder, to have my experiences validated, to be given practical tips on how best to handle my situation, has been so worthwhile. Undertaking the sessions via Skype wasn't a problem at all, in fact, more comfortable to be doing it in my own home. I now feel calmer, I have the books that Lorna recommended to refer back to, and I feel more optimistic about handling the future. I just wish I had found her years ago.
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Lorna approached all of her sessions with me with an air of professionalism and partnership – we were there to uncover truths in the spirit of discovery and to overcome limitations. It was very refreshing to be able to talk freely in a non-judgmental environment and allow my truth to come out. Months later, I am mentally healthier, happier and overall more balanced than my former self, and I am grateful to Lorna for helping me get to that point. A great companion on the journey.
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Lorna has provided me with the support and tools to successfully challenge the damage done by a narcissistic mother. At the beginning of our therapy I was unable to cope with the thoughts and feelings I was experiencing. Now, at this point in my recovery I feel much stronger and more capable of moving past the abuse I have suffered. The counselling has touched on all areas of my life and opened my eyes to the wide-ranging effects this type of abuse can cause, as a result I feel I can mother better and essentially live a lot more happily than I did previously. I particularly enjoyed the homework Lorna set, the books she recommended have all been of great benefit and kept me focused on my recovery between sessions. Most of all to talk to someone who truly understands narcissistic abuse has been invaluable. I cannot recommend Lorna highly enough.
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I am a 56-year-old professional woman who considers myself to be a good judge of character. My world was turned on its head recently when I discovered that my 80-year-old father, who had always been tricky and difficult and in my view a narcissist, had been living a double life for decades and lying to all members of his family. He had also been causing deliberate rifts in the family to protect his secret.
I was floundering and had become obsessed about the lies and betrayal – given that he had always put himself on a moral pedestal and had cracked down hard on his children ever lying – to a point where I could barely function.
I tried face-to-face counselling with two local therapists but they just looked shocked when I told them the tale – not having come across this type of issue before. It was not general counselling that I needed. This is when I looked on the internet for a therapist who specialises in narcissism and turned to Lorna for help. I found her approach to be calm and measured and she was able to tell me that I was not alone in experiencing this sort of behaviour at the hands of a narcissist. This made me feel more normal. She also gave me strategies for coping with intrusive thoughts, both in session and via follow up e-mails which have helped to turn things around for me. I have come a long way in a two-month period thanks to Lorna’s help and guidance.
At the moment I am functioning fairly well on my own largely due the new coping mechanisms (and due to the fact that there is currently no contact between me and my father), but to know that she is there to help me if I need it again is such a comfort. I would highly recommend Lorna
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With Lorna's guidance, I have finally come home to myself after years of suffering from my narcissistic parents' emotional abuse and controlling influence. If you have found your way to Lorna's work, it is very likely that you could benefit from her counsel. My advice? Start now. You deserve to feel good and empowered in your life, and Lorna will offer you the tools to get there. Keep showing the way, Lorna!